There are some conversations that at the beginning sound like a good idea but the more you get into it, the more you realize that you're going places you never intended. Take, for instance, explaining the rules of Clue to a five year old.

"Mommy, why is there a crooked stick in here?"

"It's a lead pipe, honey."

"Why is there a lead pipe in here?"

"Well, see it's a weapon."

"What's a weapon?"

"Something you use to kill people."

"How do you kill people with a lead pipe?" (Oh google search is gonna love this post!)

"Ummm... you hit them really hard with it."

"Where?"

"Probably their head."

"In their face?"

"I suppose that would do."

"How many times do you have to hit them?"

Gasp. Choke. Cough.

"Mommy, what's this wrench doing in here?"

Who knew Clue was such a moral minefield? Maybe we should play a different game. Anyone up for Battleship? "What's a nuclear submarine, mommy?"

Anyhow, today's post is going to be one of those conversations is what I'm saying. Reader Mackenzie started it all when she asked me in the comments of one of my Bodily Functions & Fitness 101 posts how exercise affects your sex life. She then added helpfully that her sex drive went down when she was overexercising. You know I love me a good overshare! Thanks Mackenzie!

Without asking too many personal questions, let's take a look at the research (because you know somebody somewhere got grant money to study this!):

How Exercise Improves Your Sex Life
1. Stamina. Sex is a fitness endeavor after all, as Men's Health is fond of reminding us on every single page. So it only follows that if you improve your overall fitness level that your endurance in other areas would also benefit. Increased cardio capacity leads to increased blood flow - always helpful. Besides, you really don't want to be one of those people who dies from heart attack during sex do you? On second thought, never mind, maybe you do.

2. Body Confidence. As anyone who has lost weight or toned up - or both - can tell you, once you start feeling better about yourself and how you look, you're more eager to shed the clothing. Even without losing any pounds or bulking any muscles, exercise has a way of making you feel more confident and sexy!

3. Strength. I won't elaborate too much on this one except to say that being strong has its advantages in and out of the gym. If you need ideas of which exercises to do to improve your horizontal hip hop skillz, WebMD has a video for you. Yeah, WebMD. I know. It might be like walking in on your parents but I'm pretty sure it's SFW (safe for work).

4. Body Knowledge. There is something about exercise that helps you understand your body and how it works better. Whether it's the coordination required to do a step aerobics class or the knowledge that bent-over rows work your upper back better than reverse pec-dec flys, knowing how your body responds to different things is a great tool.

5. Stress Relief. Everything from yoga to weights to a good long run can get those endorphins flowing and the stress hormone cortisol crashing down. Less stress is better for everyone involved, right?

How Exercise Hurts Your Sex Life
1. Steroids.Remember this guy? Don't be this guy. Besides the cosmetic issues, messing with your hormones can certainly impact your reproductive capabilities.

2. Overexercising. Like Mackenzie pointed out, sometimes you can reach a point where you exercise to the exclusion of everything else. Not only do you not mentally have the space to care about another person but physically you're so spent that sex doesn't even show up on your radar.

3. Injury. A rolled ankle probably won't put you out of business but a pulled groin or a sprained back sure will!

4. Training schedules. Often a new athlete is like someone who just found religion. They eat, sleep and breathe their newfound sport. This single-minded devotion makes them universally admired by magazine editors. It also makes them despised on bulletin boards but I digress. Sometimes people get so enthused about their new healthy lifestyle that they lose all interest in other pursuits. Who can fit in nookie when you wake up at 4, go to bed at 8 and have to eat every 2 hours in between?

Conclusion
I think it's pretty obvious what the conclusions here are: never mix sex with lead pipes. Oops. I mean, fitness has the capacity to increase your enjoyment in the bedroom and your skills as a lovah - as long as you don't take it to the extreme.
 

MAKING COFFEE: Making a cup of coffee is like making love to a beautiful woman. It's got to be hot. You've got to take your time. You've got to stir gently and firmly. You've got to grind your beans until they squeak. And then you put in the milk.

LAYING A CARPET: Laying a carpet is very much like making love to a beautiful woman. You check the dimensions, lay her out on the floor, pin her down, nail her, then walk all over her. If you're adventurous, you might like to try an underlay.

HANGING WALLPAPER: Well, hanging wallpaper is also very much like making love to a beautiful woman. Clean all the relevant surfaces, spread her out on the table, cover her with paste, and stick her up. Then you clean your brush, light your pipe, stand back and admire your handiwork.

PUTTING UP A TENT: Putting up a tent, is much like making love to a beautiful woman. You bring her, unzip the door, put up your pole and slip in to the old bag.

WASHING A CAR : Washing a car, is very much like making love to a beautiful woman. You've got to caress the bodywork. Breathe softly and gently. And give every inch of it your loving attention. And make sure you've got a nice wet sponge.

BEING IN THERAPY: Having therapy is very much like making love to a beautiful woman. You get on the couch, string them along with some half-lies and evasions, probe some deep dark holes, and then hand over all your money.

BEING IN A CRASH: Going to the brink of death and back, in a nine car pile-up on a dual carriage-way, is very much like making love to a beautiful woman. First of all, brace yourself, hold on tight - particularly if it's a rear-ender. And pray you make contact with her twin airbags as soon as possible.

GOING FISHING: Going fishing was very much like making love to a beautiful woman. First of all, clean and inspect your tackle, carefully pull back your rod cover. Then, extend your rod to its full length, and check that there are no kinks or any wear. Particularly at the base, where the grip is usually applied.  Make sure you've got a decent float, the appropriate bait, and that there's plenty of shot in your bag.

When you think of all of life’s greatest pleasures, food and sex have got to be in the top 5. Both have several things in common. Both food and sex awaken the senses and make you want more. Both can be incredibly sensual. Both can be very delicious. Combining the two can be like a sensual overload if used in the right way.

Remember the incredibly erotic movie "91/2 Weeks" starring Mickey Rourke and Kim Bassinger?  There is a scene in the movie that will open your eyes to the pleasure of combining food and sex.  Not only does it make the atmosphere erotic, it also adds a mood of playfulness to the scene.

Keep in mind that some foods are more sensual than others. You don’t want to take just ANY food into the bedroom with you. Sardines and sex are not meant to share space. On the other hand, strawberries ,whipped cream and sex most definitely are.

How you incorporate food into your lovemaking is up to you. Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. Blindfold your spouse. Put on some sensual music and light some candles. Use food to tantalize and tease. Use your imagination!

2. Squirt honey on your spouse’s body and lick it off slowly. Very arousing!

3. Dip strawberries in whipped cream and slowly paint the other’s body with the cream…licking as you go. When you get to the mouth, share the strawberry together.

4. Blindfold your spouse and do a trust test. You would be amazed how exciting and sensual this exercise can be. Have your spouse open her mouth as you put different foods in. For fun, throw something she doesn’t like in every once in awhile. End with something delightfully yummy…and see where it takes you.

Some foods that are great for bedroom play are strawberries, honey, chocolate, whipped cream, apple slices, and champagne. The choices are as endless as your imagination.

Sex VS. Love Love and sex are NOT the same thing. Love is an emotion or a feeling. There is no one definition of love because the word "love" can mean many different things to many different people. Sex, on the other hand, is a biological event. Even though there are different kinds of sex, most sexual acts have certain things in common. Sex may or may not include penetration. Differences Between Love and Sex Love Love is a feeling (emotional). There is no exact "right" definition of love for everybody. Love involves feelings of romance and/or attraction. Sex: Sex is an event or act (physical). There are different kinds of sex but all kinds of sex have some things in common. Can happen between a male and a female, between two females, between two males, or by one's self (masturbation) Abstinence The word for not having sex is called abstinence. Some people, especially people who think it's not cool to wait to have sex, think that abstinence is a completely bad thing. Actually, there are some really good things about abstinence and some of them might apply to you. Abstinence, or not having oral, vaginal or anal sex, is the best way to protect yourself. It is possible to get an STD even without having intercourse (penetrative sex) through skintoskin contact (herpes and genital warts can be passed this way). You also have to think about your own personal values and feelings. Your teenage years bring a lot of changes in how you feel about yourself, family, friends and potential love interestseven if you don't think about sex. No matter what your feelings on sex are, it may be smart to wait until something "feels right." Ways to Express Love Without Sex There are millions of nonsexual ways to show someone you like them. You can show a person you care for them by spending time with them. Go to the movies. Or just hang out and talk. If you are with someone you really like, then anything can be fun. There are other ways to feel physically close without having sex. These ways include everything from kissing and hugging to touching and petting each other. Just remember that if you're not careful these activities can lead to sex. Plan beforehand just how far you want to go, and stick to your limits. It can be difficult to say NO and mean it when things get hot and heavy.

For the world you may be someone, but for someone you may be the world!!! Love makes us special! Love is one feeling that makes our life beautiful!!!! But how to make Love long lasting?!! – Here are
a few secret ingredients from my mom’s kitchen to make a perfect love recipe and maintain a relationship!!

First let us see the Don’t Do’s:
1st ingredient:
No hugging n kissing always: Shocked?! But think! Anything done often makes it boring your presence has to be precious. So give some space for everything, at the same time no scheduled business. Loves is beyond time tables, but remember familiarity breeds to contempt !
2nd ingredient:
Don’t hesitate to say ‘I’m sorry’: When you realize of doing a mistake, kneel down with a rose in ur hand n say sorry as soon as possible!! Do not have EGO! The major cause for the ruin of many relationships is definitely Ego!
3rd ingredient:
Trouble lies in LIE: White Lies like ‘you look great today’ are very necessary for love. But don’t lie about yourself at any cost. Coz it may make Ur.p( ur partner’s) suspect later.
If u suspect Ur.p , then talking is the only solution. ( u need not go to communication classes !!!) and do not rely on what others say. Believe your partner!
4th ingredient:
No dragging in past relationships: Often we have misunderstandings and we quarrel at each other (coz mating after fighting is great thrill!) but do not drag Ur.p’s past relationships. If you do so then …it may be your last quarrel!
5th ingredient:
Don’t ever comment on your partner before others: You can very well talk about Ur p’s positive points before everyone in a loud voice. But don’t ever talk about the negative points in front of others!
Can you tolerate if Ur.p say that you snore at night or you have developed pounds around ur belly before others?!
So keep yourself in Ur.p’s shoes before you talk!
Now Do’s:
6th ingredient:
Care your partner: spare time for Ur.p. Especially when he/she is ill. Don’t be clichéd by sending a get well soon card or sms! Be creative! Make your own card. Let it be damn bad. But believe me, your partner would love it!
But the best way is to take care of ur love in person. Coz a person feels very lonely when he/she is ill. If u make a small move now, then Ur.p’s love for you will be doubled n tripled!!!
7th ingredient:
Respect others views n tastes: You don’t like hip hop. But Ur.p does. You like literature. But Ur.p doesn’t know even Shakespeare!
Do you know that a relationship becomes interesting when people with different tastes come together? But please don’t boast about your tastes n abilities. Even if you don’t like, go to a hip hop dance show with Ur.p. Then the next time your partner will take you to a book exhibition!!!
8th ingredient:
Surprises: Everyone talks about surprises. Don’t give what you like, but give what Ur.p likes. You may love adventures, but you can’t make your partner to do scuba diving or bungee jumping!! Even if you don’t like, learn to feel happy by seeing your partner enjoying his/her surprise (very filmy!!)
The last n the most important 9th ingredient:
LOVE: The main thing to make a perfect relationship recipe is Love and Love only!!!
Let me conclude with a small conversation b/w a boy and a girl in love.
G: Am I pretty?
B: No!
G: Do you want to live with me?
B: No!
G: Will you cry if I leave you?
B: No!
The girl starts crying. Boy pulls her close to him and said “You are not pretty, but you are the prettiest! I don’t want to live with you, but I want to live for you!!
If you leave me, I won’t cry but DIE!!!!”
This is Love. Spread Love! Enjoy Life!!!!!

1. The best position for his enjoyment

Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry “doggy-style” position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. While you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It’s great for guys because it gives them full control.

This is one of the best positions for hitting her G-spot and allows him to fondle your breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neck and other sensual spots. The main benefit for your man is that he’ll be able to get incredibly deep penetration (above-average guys need to be careful as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).
2. Find your man’s “hidden” zones

Yes, men love to be touched sensually too. I call these “hidden” zones because many people don’t realize, or forget, that these areas of the body LOVE attention.

While many of these zones are obvious, like the lips, groin, and inner thighs, there are also areas that, when stroked, caressed and kissed, can drive your partner wild and even intensify their orgasm.

Believe it or not, the ears, neck, arms, chest and scalp are all really sensitive areas that love to be stimulated. Spend some time during foreplay caressing and touching these areas, and watch how it pleases your partner.
3. Set a romantic mood
hink men aren’t romantic or wouldn’t appreciate it? Think again! Everyone loves a thoughtful and kind gesture. Of course you might think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of your lovemaking is a little too “cliché.” But he’ll think differently!

Your partner will LOVE YOU for this. Just imagine how happy you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special lovemaking occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so “cliché” because people enjoy it so much? Point made.
4. Give him a hand job

When beginning a genital massage, start with lighter, irregular strokes – like teasing. As you get further and further into it, stick with two or three main strokes that your partner really enjoys.

Developing a good rhythm that your partner can get into is the key to bringing your partner to orgasm with a genital massage.
5. Please your man with more oral sex

If I had to give you one piece of advice to make your lovemaking perfect, it would be: learn the art of fellatio. It’s true, all men love it. It feels great and actually takes a lot of trust and comfort to let somebody have their mouth down there. In short, it’s an important part of lovemaking and is often the main event.

Problem is, women often start fellatio by sucking on the penis straightaway when, actually, they should start with some playful teasing and soft touches.

This will lead to a much more powerful orgasm as it heightens his anticipation. Make sure you use different techniques and your tongue, as well.

So there you have it. Five great ways to make your man more satisfied in the bedroom. While they’re all great, I would recommend putting most of your energy and time into learning fellatio, simply because men crave it so much and the loving smile and kisses you’ll probably get in return are definitely worth it.

It is no secret that men can get turned on much quicker than women. Men are also able to climax in less time than most women. This can make for some issues when it comes to love making. Husbands sometimes don’t understand why their wife doesn’t want to be intimate. It is likely because they aren’t getting the same thing out of the event. Men need to understand that love making is more mental for a woman while it is mainly a physical event for a man.

Outside the bedroom

You can help your wife enjoy love making more by being more attentive outside of the bedroom. Give her a breath taking kiss as you leave in the morning and she will think about you all day. Leave her notes that you love her and call her to say hello during your lunch hour, not to ask her to iron your shirt!

Show of appreciation

A woman likes to know she is appreciated. Take the time to thank her for all she does for you and for your family. It will mean the world to her. Women often get ran down after a day of working, caring for children, and taking care of the household. Make sure she gets some quality time to herself. This can be cleaning up after a meal you cooked for her, giving the children a bath, or giving her a gift certificate for a massage.

Oh body!

Many women are self conscious about their bodies, especially if they have gained weight and after they have children. Let her know you think she is beautiful. Don’t save your compliments until you want to make love. Once the moment does present itself, ask her what you can do to please her. Women take longer to climax, so foreplay is very important.

A woman who feels appreciated, feels sexy, and has some help with children and household chores will be more willing to make love with her husband. If you work hard to take care of her needs, she will do everything she can to make sure yours are met as well.

Relationship advice and tips are always a hot topic among any age group, showing that love is not something you always come to understand over time. Different people rub each other in different ways and sometimes things just happen and there's really nothing anybody can do about it. So are there any clear-cutrelationship advice and tips that can help just about anybody? Definitely!

Know when you're right, and know when you're wrong. Don't always assume that you're right or that your significant other is wrong, look at things from a logical point of view. Many people look at things with a clear bias towards their side without even realizing it and come off as a sort of bully in some cases.

Respect your partner's wishes. You may not agree with them sometimes, but never force the person you're in a relationship with to do something they don't want to do. You don't like to be bossed around, do you? Why would the person you love?

Consider your partner's feelings at all times. This pertains mostly to men because they often ignore how the woman feels and accidentally hurt their feelings without even realizing it. Think about what your partner is comfortable with and likes and work with it, not against it. If it's drastically different from what you like or want to do, then you might be better off with someone who is more like you.

Trust your significant other. Trust is a big component in long term and meaningful relationships, and often when there is no trust the relationship doesn't last very long. If one or both of you do not trust each other and drag the relationship on it's going to lead to some pretty big fall downs in the future. Clear up your trust issues as soon as possible and learn to love your partner for who they are.

Don't take a "What's mine is mine" approach to things. Share your belongings with your partner, it will make them feel special and like they're really a part of your life. You may not like letting other people touch your stuff, but if you love each other chances are you'll be living together at some point and then you have to share things with each other. It's not as tough as it sounds.

These are the most all-encompassing relationship advice and tips you can get and will solve or prevent most problems that come along in any relationship. Many people don't realize what they've done wrong until it's too late and it feels awful to lose a relationship because of a simple problem that you could have worked out very easily. If you love the person you're with, you're going to be willing to make some changes and sacrifices to keep things strong and last as long as possible together.

Healthy relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. You can have a healthy relationship with anyone in your life, including your family, friends and dating partners. Relationships take time, energy, and care to make them healthy. The relationships that you make in your teen years will be a special part of your life and will teach you some of the most important lessons about who you are. This guide was written to help you understand different kinds of relationships, what makes each relationship special, and how to communicate in a positive way. We have included common stories and fun ways to work on many kinds of relationships.

What makes a relationship healthy?

Communication & Sharing: The most important part of any healthy relationship between two people is being able to talk and listen to one another. You and the other person can figure out what your common interests are. You can share your feelings with the other person and trust that they will be there to listen and support you. In healthy relationships, people don't lie. Communication is based on honesty and trust. By listening carefully and sharing your thoughts and feelings with another person, you show them that they are an important part of your life.

Respect and Trust: In healthy relationships, you learn to respect and trust important people in your life. Disagreements may still happen, but you learn to stay calm and talk about how you feel. Talking calmly helps you to understand the real reason for not getting along, and it's much easier to figure out how to fix it. In healthy relationships, working through disagreements often makes the relationship stronger. In healthy relationships, people respect each other for who they are. This includes respecting and listening to yourself and your feelings so you can set boundaries and feel comfortable. You will find that you learn to understand experiences and feelings of others as well as having them understand your experiences and feelings.

How do I know that I have a healthy relationship with someone?

• You know that you are in a healthy relationship with someone because you feel good about yourself when you are around that person. Unhealthy relationships can make you feel sad, angry, scared, or worried.
• Healthy peer relationships involve an equal amount of give and take in the relationship. In unhealthy relationships, there is an unfair balance. You may feel that most of the time you are giving the other person more attention than they give to you.
• You should feel safe around the other person and feel that you can trust him/her with your secrets. In a healthy relationship, you like to spend time with the other person, instead of feeling like you're pressured into spending time with them. Unhealthy relationships do not include trust and respect, which are very important parts of a family relationship, good friendship, or dating relationship. No one deserves to be in an unhealthy relationship.

Josh will tell you: He just likes sex! Through high school and college he kept track of the "notches on his belt" but a few decades later the women are just a hazy stream of one night stands. He loves the chase and sometimes even feels pleasure. But when the sex is over he is gone.

He tells himself he's quite a stud but a voice inside asks how long he can keep this up. He swears he's going to stay home and relax tonight but the loneliness gets to him and finally, he decides he will "check out the action" at his favorite bar one more time.

Trina just met the "man of her dreams" a few weeks ago. She invited him to stay with her when his wife threw him out. She's so happy giving him what he needs domestically, financially, and sexually, especially when it's something his wife wouldn't do. She loves knowing that she understands his better than anyone else. That is why she is going to surprise him by taking him out to dinner for his birthday and wear the kind of very revealing dress he really likes.

Normally she wears more conservative clothes because she is uncomfortable being the center of attention. But making him happy is what counts. She leaves work early to swing by his office and give him a ride so he won't have to take the bus. She's thinking about placing an ad to give away her precious Siamese because he has hinted that he doesn't like cats.

What do Josh and Trina have in common? On the surface, very little, but inside they are two lonely people desperate for connectedness in unhealthy and compulsive relationships. Josh and Trina may be sex and love addicts.

What is Addiction to Sex and/or Love?

Although people such as Josh and Trina seem at first glance to be very different--Josh relates superficially to many and Trina wraps herself up intensely in one--they can be thought of as extremes on a continuum. Josh's behavior may be acceptable or even admired for younger men but in someone well into middle age they contradict our cultural expectation of finding a mate and settling down for life. Therefore, his addiction is more readily seen as out of control than is Trina's.

Sexual addiction has been called many other things: compulsive sexual behavior, hypersexuality, or sexual impulsivity. Sex addicts are characterized by a preoccupation with sex, the strong desire for sex, and particularly, a sense of shame due to an inability to control their sexual impulses. Sex addicts cannot identify a time when their compulsion began but there seems to be an agreement that it occurs as a coping response to anxiety.

The psychological world had known for decades what the underlying problem is. As far back as twenty years ago, Barth and Kinder (1987) wrote, "the sexually impulsive individual uses sexual activity as a means of avoiding or escaping from personal problems, social stress, and unpleasant emotions, such as loneliness, boredom, tension, sadness, or anger (p.16)." Their sexual activities can range from intense sexual fantasizing, conventional intercourse, and sexual deviation (of a number of types) to violent criminal behavior. Sex addicts often try to distance themselves from their impulses, that is, from their bodies, their hearts and souls.

They use repression and denial resulting in guilt and shame, social isolation, and other inwardly directed negative emotions. In other words, they try to keep their addiction secret and suffer low self esteem and alienation as a result. Frequently, their sexual addiction is accompanied by drug and alcohol abuse or addiction. Often, as the substance abuse abates, the sexual addiction increases and one set of compulsive behaviors substitutes for another. However, both addictions can be seen as attempts to provide a means of avoiding inner emptiness.

What about Trina? What could be wrong with falling in love, becoming one with your partner, placing your loved one above yourself: Isn't that the stuff of romance? Isn't that what love is all about? Trina and those like her have never experienced genuine nurturing and confuse their partner's neediness with desire. Their relationships are one way to try to experience caring but their care-taking can turn to control. Typically love addicts are Super Co-dependents.

They may have grown up in extremely dysfunctional households where one or both parents were either addicted to something (e.g.,alcohol, drugs, work, gambling, food, etc.), mentally unstable, violent, physically and/or emotionally abusive, or even sexually inappropriate with their children. The result was that the parents were emotionally unavailable to their children and thereby discounted their child's perceptions and needs. Future love addicts often became caretakers of one or both of their dysfunctional parents. In this way they got some of their emotional needs met to feel important or valued.

These kids brought into adulthood a paralyzing fear of abandonment so strong that they would do anything to keep a relationship from breaking up. Used to a lack of love in relationships, they are attracted to partners who are as emotionally unavailable as their parents. They hold hopes of transforming the object of their affection with the power of their love. They stay focused on the loved one and discount their own needs and desires. They take on the blame, guilt, and responsibility for the relationship and keep trying harder and harder to please.

They are willing to suffer and endure pain in hopes of getting their partner to acknowledge and appreciate them in ways their parents never did. People who are kind, respectful, and solicitous of them are found wanting, dull, and lacking in excitement. The love addict becomes restless around persons who might really provide them with genuine caring and nurturing. The love addict's caring turns to control as they try harder and harder to achieve the security they never had in childhood. However, rather than create that idealized fairy tale ending they wish for, they more often recreate the home they were raised in.

Recovering from Sex or Love Addiction

While suggestions for treatment of sex and love addiction differ among varying helping groups and professionals, two major concepts are considered important by all:

1. since love and sex are natural and important parts of human functioning the impulses need to be re-channeled rather than abandoned and
2. full recovery involves developing healthy relationships.

With most addictions, abstinence is a major goal and means to recovery. The alcoholic abstains from drinking; the compulsive gamble stops betting; the addict stops using. Yet, just as the suggestion that compulsive overeaters cease all eating activities would be unrealistic as well as unhealthy, and therefore unwise, the suggestion that sex and love addicts stop partaking of their loving and sexual impulses would be equally unnatural and also unnecessary. Loving and sexual impulses expressed in healthy ways lead to feelings of belonging, positive interactions, and increasing self esteem.

Sex and love addicts have distorted their natural impulses in dysfunctional ways in order to deny their feelings of shame. Therefore, a major goal of recovery is to re-direct and re-channel addictive thoughts and behaviors in order to rediscover their natural loving and sexual impulses and transform their lives.

Developing healthy relationships is vital to recovery from a sex or love addiction. To this end Twelve Step programs modeled after Alcoholics Anonymous serve a valuable purpose. Many sex and love addicts find the acceptance, patience, and structure of a Twelve Step program such as Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) or Co-Dependents Anonymous (CODA) their key to feeling more genuine connectedness with themselves and others. Some find a special friend, mentor, or lover with whom they are able to form a healthy and enduring bond.

Some need more help. A number of people discover that a relationship with a professional therapist with expertise in these issues can be helpful in many situations. A therapist can help them see why they behave in unhealthy ways, can help them identify their unmet needs and find ways of expressing and getting them met, can describe what healthy relationships are like, and can help guide and support recovering addicts as they experiment with new ways of being.

Although sex and love addicts may experience anxiety, loneliness and despair and the road of recovery may seem long and bumpy, they can become healthier in their relationships and lead fuller, more satisfying lives. If you or a loved one need help, get it. Make yourself a priority and attend to this most basic of needs as soon as you can.

Human race has been practicing sex for ages, yet this is the one we are most confused and ignorant about. It is from sex this world began, it is through sex the generations developed and it is sexual love that gives continuity of life on earth. At this point it sounds relevant to strive a bit to answer questions like, How to play the safer side of sex? What all are the safer sex practices?

Sex, the healthy part of being an adult, is a practice which can transmit a number of infections if proper care is not taken. If you want to practice safer sex it does not mean you have to eliminate sex from your life. Safer sex, in the right sense means enjoying sex without transmitting or acquiring sexually transmitted diseases. Many STDs can last a lifetime, cause birth defects in babies, and make you sterile. The deadly AIDS epidemic is the most lively example for unsafe sexual practices. Remember that safe sex is about risk reduction, and not complete risk elimination.

It is not at all possible to abstain from sex as this is an inevitable part of healthy human life. The best way to ensure safe sex is to avoid the risk related place or practice. Thus to avoid risk and to be safe the only suggestible option is to take best possible safety measures. Solitary masturbation is a safe form of sexual activity. It is safe as long as no contact is made with discharged body fluids.

" It is not at all possible to abstain from sex as this is an inevitable part of healthy human life. The best way to ensure safe sex is to avoid the risk related place or practice.  "

Most of the infections transmit through body fluids. Preventing the fluid exchange may help to be safe enough in lovemaking. Use of condoms, both men and women, may prevent risk to a certain level. Dental dams can be used when indulged in oral sex. It can be used as a barrier between mouth and vagina during cunnilingus. Medical gloves are effective during mutual masturbation. Use a water-based lubricant such as K-Y Jelly or Astroglide for preventing the tearing down of the skin if there is a lack of lubrication during sexual intercourse. Small tears in the vagina during vaginal sex or in the rectum during anal sex allow STDs to get into your blood.

Most important is to approach sex with caution. Monogamy is very safe when partners are non-infected. Sexually faithful partners can have safer sex without any of the infections. Discussing with your partner about sexual activities and safety measures may help you to be prepared with precautions. This may make your lovemaking more tension free and risk- less.

Avoid sex with multiple partners, and also keep away from people who make love with number of people. If you come to know that your sexual partner is already affected with infections, either avoid any body contact before proper treatment is taken or take precautions. You should have a clear picture of activities that you may practice during lovemaking, like oral sex, anal sex etc... Only doing the right thing in the right way may make you risk free.

Never make love when your are drunk. The effect of alcohol may make you unconcerned of the risk and safety measures, thus unwontedly spreading infections. Setting your limits may help you to prevent infections. Have sound knowledge about safe sex, keep get a supply of lubricant and condoms or other barriers, and be sure they are easy to find when you need them etc... can help you to be safe.

Remember, before you end up with an unsafe or unprotected intercourse, it is through sex the most dangerous and deadly infections transmit from one person to another. Few of the infections could be treated effectively but most of them like HIV may steal your life in a short span. Therefore be pledged to have sexual pleasure only if the safety is assured, for you to live a long life; safe, sound and satisfied.

1. Live Out Every Fantasy

At age 52, I'm in darn good shape...nearly as good as when I was a 25. I have a very high libido. And let me tell you....you know those bizarre, outrageous sexual fantasies that only "other people" live out? Do them!

Life is too short....stop worrying about "good girl" status. I found my sexual twin later in life and we have done more things than we ever dreamed of doing, or that we only dreamed of doing, when we were younger. We are both incredibly satisfied continually. We tell each other what was good and what wasn't so good, and more importantly, what was amazing!

2. Switch it up

Treat sex like your workout: Change it up so you don't get bored, always push harder and farther to keep from hitting a plateau, and listen to your body for hidden cues that will help enhance your performance.

3. Focus On Your Pleasure

Be selfish, they love it.

4. Don't Fake It

No faking and always tell your partner what's going on. Never make him or her guess because it can cause issues. Also have a quickie here and there and be spontaneous! It does wonders for the both of you!

5. Be Open-Minded

Don't get so caught up thinking you're just not in the mood. See where is goes, because with the right amount of foreplay, you may just be surprised at how badly you want it.

6. Just Breathe

If you ever have trouble reaching your orgasm, you may not be breathing deeply enough. Especially during missionary position, he might put too much weight on your chest, causing your breathing to become too shallow to allow enough oxygen to flow through those arteries and let you become fully aroused.

7. Forget Your Inhibitions

Don't worry about what you look like! A man wants you to be into sex, not into what you look like having it. Note: the most awkward looking positions are some of the best feeling.

8. Communicate

As a man I hate having to second-guess. Tell me what you want me to do, or what you like. Guide me to where it feels better. Don't be afraid to suggest new things. Be completely honest with me.

9. Do it in Public

My fiancé and I had sex on a hill out in the open late at night and it was some of the best sex we had because of the risk [of someone catching us]. Also get out of the bedroom! Sex on chairs, kitchen counters and pool tables is way more fun.